Resources

Opening Up

A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

This book explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships -- from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management.

PolySecure

A book that breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of multigamy. It provides a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

The Polyamory Breakup Book

A practical guide to breakups in polyamorous relationships.

This book looks at the common causes of polyamorous breakups, identifies strategies to avoid ending relationships, and provides you with the toolkit to survive a breakup.

When Someone You Love Is Polyamorous

Having a friend or family member come out to you as polyamorous can be confusing and stressful. Chances are, you have a lot of questions: Is this just a phase? Won’t they settle down someday? What’s going to happen to their kids? Do I have to invite all their partners over for Thanksgiving dinner? Why can’t they just keep it in the bedroom?

This book offers answers to these and more questions, to help you better understand and support your polyamorous loved ones.

The Polyamorists Next Door

Using polyamorists' own words, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff examines polyamorous households and reveals their advantages, disadvantages, and the daily lives of those living in them.

The Ethical Slut

The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable.

In this book, the authors dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

The Jealousy Workbook

These accessible, simple techniques are designed to be easily implemented in the event of an intense jealousy crisis. They are even more useful if undertaken over a period of time before a jealousy crisis happens, to build a skill set that will be at hand to help managing jealousy when and if it does occur.

Designer Relationships

A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships.

This book explains exactly how you and your loved ones can design your own life and love. Designer relationships may encompass: people who bond emotionally but not sexually; people who agree to be non-exclusive; single people who have occasional lovers or friends with benefits; multiple partner configurations where long-term bonds exist among all or some; partnerships in which people are kinky and that make room to explore kink.

Nonviolent Communication

Through stories, examples and role-plays, this cornerstone book provides a deep understanding of the core components of the NVC process and consciousness.

Love in Abundance

In this book, Kathy sets forth some of the realities of alternative lifestyles: dealing with some of the common relationship-disrupters, managing jealousy, choosing compatible partners, combining BDSM with polyamory, distinguishing between sex addiction and polyamory, and much more.

Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity

A book to help neurodivergent people understand how well-suited they are to the polyamorous life, and to help them recognize and manage the challenges that being neurodivergent can bring to multigamy.